Imagine you are sitting down with a colleague or supervisor and said…”what I really need from you in order for me to thrive in my role is______” Fill in the blank with any hosts of needs, such as:time, quiet, honest conversation, data to analyze, problems to solve, tasks to complete or even someone to mentor. In order to truly leverage our strengths, we must ask for what we need. Asking for what you need is one of the finer arts of negotiation.
We often think of negotiation through the lenses of salaries and benefits. SheNegotiates helps women with the art of negotiating.They believe that “the world needs what you have to offer.” Their training and coaching services help women to strategically work towards their professional and financial goals. SheNegotiates fills a critical role in helping women learn the art of negotiating. The team at SheNegotiates understands the importance of asking for what you need.Often people remember a negotiation opportunity where they wish they had asked for a larger financial or benefits package. However, can you remember a time where you asked for what your strengths needed?
DeAnna Murphy at Strengths Strategy teaches a critical lesson on the importance of knowing what your strengths need. Think of it as the nutrition for your strengths. Strengths need fuel, it’s your job to name the fuel.
Think about your strength’s needs.
Imagine your greatest strength is fixing things. You enjoy the challenge of figuring out why something is broken and then repairing it. Perhaps at home you enjoy repairing a broken appliance. At work you might like untangling complex problems. If you are a person with this strength you will thrive in your role if you have both the opportunity to identify challenges and fix them. What could you ask for? New projects where the goal is to increase efficiency? Old projects where something is no longer working well?
Or perhaps, your strength is to analyze new research. You enjoy reading new material, synthesizing themes and sharing your ideas with others. These deep thinking strengths need time and space to process. In our fast pace businesses, people with thinking strengths need to ask for more time and even a quiet work space to perform at their greatest potential.
All strengths have needs. Consider scheduling time in your workplace to discuss what everyone’s strengths need. It can be an empowering experience for a team. You may just find that once you know what everyone’s strengths’ need you will be happier in your roles, more efficient, energetic and ultimately, achieve higher levels of performance.
What do your strengths need? What’s one thing you will ask for tomorrow? How can you support colleagues by asking what their strengths need?